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Welcome to Basic Parenting Getting along with Siblings If you have more than one child, chances are they fight with one another. Sibling rivalry is a part of growing up and being in a family. I have a great way of dealing with this, and it could be termed as Passive Parenting. This is how Passive Parenting works. First, set some ground rules for tattletaling. For our kids, you can come tell a parent if someone is hurting you, if they are hurt themselves, or if someone is being destructive, like coloring on the walls. If they tattletale for something else, they get into trouble themselves. 
This doesn’t work for every situation, but it works for many of them. For other problems, have your children set some rules that will help them deal with other problems that come up. For my kids, they like the privacy of their bedrooms, and hate when brothers or sisters get into their things. So, my kids have set a rule that you have to ask permission to go into a sibling’s bedroom. Sibling rivalry is something that never goes away, but if you teach your children to handle their own battles, you are creating a more confident child and one that will get along better with others. Teaching Responsibility It is so important to teach your kids responsibility, but many parents fail in this area. I watch parents that will not allow their children to do anything because they don’t want to deal with the mess, they feel their child will fail, or they don’t want to take the time. Yet, a responsible child needs these skills to be successful in school and to build a strong sense of self. Give your child chores or things around the house that they must do. Start a small child out by having them make their bed and put their toys away. Give older children jobs that must be done every day, or every week. Giving them work to do around the house helps them belong more to the family and the home. Find a pet that your child would like and help them learn to care for it. This teaches them to be responsible for another living thing. There are many different choices in pets and many pet stores will help you make that decision. Make your child be responsible for the consequences of their actions. Allow them to make choices for themselves. Understanding that there are rewards and punishments for their actions helps to develop social skills they need. |
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